LEARNING TO TRUST AGAIN
One of the most interesting things I’ve observed about human behaviour and my own experience over the years is that we are more often prone to rejecting the right answers to our problems in favour of secondary solutions.
Growing up with a father who is a mechanic I saw numerous examples of this when I would observe customers who claimed to inwardly want the very best care for their new car but were often willing to use the cheapest gas, settle for second class parts, or even go to the less reputable shady mechanic down the street if they perceived that it would save them a few bucks.
And that’s not to say they my own father was without the temptation to compromise to save a few bucks at times either. The Bible tells us no one is good but God alone.
But although I think people genuinely do desire the best for themselves, we are rarely willing to pay the high price to do things the correct way the first time around.
Something within ourselves has convinced us that we can compromise integrity without compromising quality.
But the difference always reveals itself in the end.
I know a pastor who often reminds his congregation that for those who believe, “the grass is greener on the other side of the fence,” they are wrong. It’s only a matter of time before the grass on the other side is just as bad as your current grass because obviously you are the one who doesn’t water it!
What’s most tragic is that we don’t seem to mind paying the high costs of doing things the wrong way though.
However, what I find interesting about it all is that, if and when a person who all their lives has gone to a shady mechanic, bought questionable products, or made choices that left them in constant suspense about it decides one day to go to a good mechanic, they often begin to view even the good mechanic with the very same suspicions that they rightly felt with the shady mechanic they were accustomed to.
They’re always crying out “robbery”, unaccustomed to paying the actual price of getting a job done right. Or they become suspicious that something is not being done right, and feel totally justified to feel this way, even if nothing ever arises to confirm their suspicions.
It means that their own self-taught experiences with poor decision-making to choose disreputable options has actually trained them not to trust any mechanics anymore. (I feel like there’s some good relationship advice hidden away in this paragraph also.)
And that’s the real tragedy here, because it appears that cutting corners has in many ways cost us far more than we initially anticipated. This is a picture into the soul that has been warped by sin. It craves love, but not Jesus love. It craves acceptance, but not the acceptance of the cross. It craves living life to the full, but not the abundant life that is found only in the risen Christ.
And so instead we continue to find mediocre solutions that have so destroyed our faith in true love, real acceptance, and abundant life, that it has become easier to say that these things don’t really exist than to taste and see that all we’re really longing for is wrapped up in the risen Saviour!
Knowing that this broken perception existed in the fallen human heart, Jesus found it absolutely necessary to assure his disciples of the contrary in Him. He said:
“I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.
The hired hand is not the shepherd and does not own the sheep. So when he sees the wolf coming, he abandons the sheep and runs away. Then the wolf attacks the flock and scatters it.
The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep.
“I am the good shepherd; I know my sheep and my sheep know me–just as the Father knows me and I know the Father–and I lay down my life for the sheep.”
Which is why, even though it may be hard to break out of the cycle of not being able to fully trust in people, I welcome you to trust One who has proven Himself worthy in giving His life as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.
Which is why I implore you,